Avoid that children "take power," says the famous French psychologist and pediatrician: "Mothers have been deceived by a discourse of fashion that enslaves"
The Nation, Wednesday, July 29, 2009
The Nation, Wednesday, July 29, 2009
By Luisa Corradini
PARIS. Some people consider him a true reactionary. Aldo Naouri, the most famous of the French psicopediatras, shrugs his shoulders with disdain, and continues: "To believe that a horizontal relationship with the children may be useful or successful is crazy. Instead of educating democrats, parents end up producing dictators "he says.
is the author of a dozen books that sold more than 300,000 copies each. Naouri is 72 and spent his life emphasizing the role of mothers in educating children about the dangers and warning that they are made available to their children for fear of traumatizing. "It is imperative that children take power . The consequences are disastrous for society, "he says. Benjamin
a Jewish family of ten children installed in Libya for three generations, Naouri born in 1937 in that country, just days after the death of his father. Expelled by the occupying Italian, during the Second World War, emigrated to Algeria, where they survived thanks to the courage of his mother, who washed and ironed clothes for American soldiers to surround while all her children with unconditional love.
"Every night, despite the tiredness, my mother sat on the floor of precarious housing where we lived, with all of us around, to tell stories in the only language he knew, a Judeo-Arabic dialect," he recalls.
For that reason, Aldo Naouri arrived in France in 1957 without speaking a word of French. And thanks to an unusual intelligence, instead of being a hairdresser, and dreamed of her mother, ended up being the most famous flattered and pediatricians specializing in child psychology.
- Why are you so hard on mothers, after the great relationship he had with it?
"On the contrary, I have a passion for the mothers. And my only interest is serving. The problem is that these mothers are lured by talk of fashion that enslaves them, instead of serving.
- How long have ruled that speech?
"For 40 or 50 years. All the work I did for four decades aimed to show that they are deceived by that speech, which are its first victims. In my work I try to say that we should not listen to these purposes misleading, which began almost as he passed May 68.
"In other words," is now forbidden to forbid. "
"Not only that, but the promotion of unalloyed pleasure, individualism and child power. I do not tell mothers what to do. I say, "This is the goal." Imagine that a mother is driving a vehicle. Your child is the passenger who has to bear positive results. Before, there were signs. There were red and green lights, agents for regulating the circulation. And even had put beside it a sort of co-pilot, who was the father your child. But half a century ago made him believe that mother who is worth the journey, not the destination. Gagged the copilot and took out the maps.
"So what does the mother?
"Try to use your intelligence, which is all you have on hand. And part of the principle that her son when she was inside, was in complete safety. So his son built around a virtual uterus, infinitely extensible, which will never leave. We give you everything you want. If awake ten times a day, will rise ten times a day, and if you want to walk on all fours, so will. The poor man who had next to no longer pay attention. And end up standing at a terrible loneliness that leads to divorce in half the cases. That's the way modern women cheat.
"If it started half a century ago, what has happened to these" petty tyrants "to become adults?
"From the economic point of view, are adults with a profound contempt for the effort. Want to make money, but above all, do not complicate your existence. They want everything without doing absolutely nothing in return. This explains why we are in the current situation. The financial crisis was caused by these individuals, who think only of themselves and their wishes, and forget all altruistic consideration. This is a feature of the Western world, while in China, India and other emerging countries, all individuals are people who, having been deprived of many things, make efforts and accept them.
- What will we do to overcome this situation?
"We are witnessing the triumph of a psychic structure which is called" perversion. " This is extremely worrying, because the back of perversion is the neurosis and the neurotic are fascinated with perversos.Todos are neurotic. Because the neurosis, in general, is what builds social ties. The neurosis is established in childhood, when a child has a drive that seeks to satisfy. Parents are there to put limits on this drive. To say, "No, do not do that." The evil is one that neither repressed nor rejects, which has not been trained for that. What happens then? The neurotic is totally fascinated by the perverse. When you see Freud and psychoanalysis, is dedicated to reading the neurosis. But what Freud wanted was not to delete the neurosis and psychic structure, but to cure the sick neurosis.
- What is the difference between the two forms of neurosis?
"If you want to know what a neurotic structure, just imagine a child as a house. This structure is ill when parents say: "In this room I'll put the Louis XV table I inherited from my mother and vajillero I inherited from my uncle, plus the four chairs of my maternal grandfather." Soon it will be impossible to move. The boy will drown and be sick.
- How do you do to free the child from all those junk?
-Trying to see the parents of the interest to put into the structure of the child all stuff. The task of psicopediatra is the mother of the child: "You know, you grow up ...". As for the husband, he also lives the same. And here we are in full symbolism of marriage, an institution widely criticized and ignored today. Marriage, symbolically, is designed precisely to remove individuals from their status as children. But mothers have not only become more castrating, but children. Mentally, no longer daring to oppose their own mothers.
"After these terrible diagnosis, do you have left you a bit of optimism for the future?
-No. I think evil has reigned for years ahead and that the world will certainly suffer the consequences for a long time.
What do you think about it? Makes your comments.
PARIS. Some people consider him a true reactionary. Aldo Naouri, the most famous of the French psicopediatras, shrugs his shoulders with disdain, and continues: "To believe that a horizontal relationship with the children may be useful or successful is crazy. Instead of educating democrats, parents end up producing dictators "he says.
is the author of a dozen books that sold more than 300,000 copies each. Naouri is 72 and spent his life emphasizing the role of mothers in educating children about the dangers and warning that they are made available to their children for fear of traumatizing. "It is imperative that children take power . The consequences are disastrous for society, "he says. Benjamin
a Jewish family of ten children installed in Libya for three generations, Naouri born in 1937 in that country, just days after the death of his father. Expelled by the occupying Italian, during the Second World War, emigrated to Algeria, where they survived thanks to the courage of his mother, who washed and ironed clothes for American soldiers to surround while all her children with unconditional love.
"Every night, despite the tiredness, my mother sat on the floor of precarious housing where we lived, with all of us around, to tell stories in the only language he knew, a Judeo-Arabic dialect," he recalls.
For that reason, Aldo Naouri arrived in France in 1957 without speaking a word of French. And thanks to an unusual intelligence, instead of being a hairdresser, and dreamed of her mother, ended up being the most famous flattered and pediatricians specializing in child psychology.
- Why are you so hard on mothers, after the great relationship he had with it?
"On the contrary, I have a passion for the mothers. And my only interest is serving. The problem is that these mothers are lured by talk of fashion that enslaves them, instead of serving.
- How long have ruled that speech?
"For 40 or 50 years. All the work I did for four decades aimed to show that they are deceived by that speech, which are its first victims. In my work I try to say that we should not listen to these purposes misleading, which began almost as he passed May 68.
"In other words," is now forbidden to forbid. "
"Not only that, but the promotion of unalloyed pleasure, individualism and child power. I do not tell mothers what to do. I say, "This is the goal." Imagine that a mother is driving a vehicle. Your child is the passenger who has to bear positive results. Before, there were signs. There were red and green lights, agents for regulating the circulation. And even had put beside it a sort of co-pilot, who was the father your child. But half a century ago made him believe that mother who is worth the journey, not the destination. Gagged the copilot and took out the maps.
"So what does the mother?
"Try to use your intelligence, which is all you have on hand. And part of the principle that her son when she was inside, was in complete safety. So his son built around a virtual uterus, infinitely extensible, which will never leave. We give you everything you want. If awake ten times a day, will rise ten times a day, and if you want to walk on all fours, so will. The poor man who had next to no longer pay attention. And end up standing at a terrible loneliness that leads to divorce in half the cases. That's the way modern women cheat.
"If it started half a century ago, what has happened to these" petty tyrants "to become adults?
"From the economic point of view, are adults with a profound contempt for the effort. Want to make money, but above all, do not complicate your existence. They want everything without doing absolutely nothing in return. This explains why we are in the current situation. The financial crisis was caused by these individuals, who think only of themselves and their wishes, and forget all altruistic consideration. This is a feature of the Western world, while in China, India and other emerging countries, all individuals are people who, having been deprived of many things, make efforts and accept them.
- What will we do to overcome this situation?
"We are witnessing the triumph of a psychic structure which is called" perversion. " This is extremely worrying, because the back of perversion is the neurosis and the neurotic are fascinated with perversos.Todos are neurotic. Because the neurosis, in general, is what builds social ties. The neurosis is established in childhood, when a child has a drive that seeks to satisfy. Parents are there to put limits on this drive. To say, "No, do not do that." The evil is one that neither repressed nor rejects, which has not been trained for that. What happens then? The neurotic is totally fascinated by the perverse. When you see Freud and psychoanalysis, is dedicated to reading the neurosis. But what Freud wanted was not to delete the neurosis and psychic structure, but to cure the sick neurosis.
- What is the difference between the two forms of neurosis?
"If you want to know what a neurotic structure, just imagine a child as a house. This structure is ill when parents say: "In this room I'll put the Louis XV table I inherited from my mother and vajillero I inherited from my uncle, plus the four chairs of my maternal grandfather." Soon it will be impossible to move. The boy will drown and be sick.
- How do you do to free the child from all those junk?
-Trying to see the parents of the interest to put into the structure of the child all stuff. The task of psicopediatra is the mother of the child: "You know, you grow up ...". As for the husband, he also lives the same. And here we are in full symbolism of marriage, an institution widely criticized and ignored today. Marriage, symbolically, is designed precisely to remove individuals from their status as children. But mothers have not only become more castrating, but children. Mentally, no longer daring to oppose their own mothers.
"After these terrible diagnosis, do you have left you a bit of optimism for the future?
-No. I think evil has reigned for years ahead and that the world will certainly suffer the consequences for a long time.
What do you think about it? Makes your comments.